Listen | 28. Jun 2020

When Listening To (Or Reading About) Two Girlfriends Teaching You A Lesson Or Two About Your Own Relationships

Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman met at a "Gossip Girl" viewing party some years ago - back then, when cable TV was not affordable for everyone - and decided to become friends on the spot. And as they moved to different cities shorty after their initial crush on each other, they decided to start a podcast in 2014, based on their weekly phone calls to each other.

Since then Call Your Girlfriend , produced by Gina Delvac, gained hundreds of thousands of followers - listening to their conversations about all kinds of feminist issues, jobs, men, women, politics, books worth reading and TV-series worth watching. The way you might exchange opinions with your significant one as well: strongly but dearly, coming from opposite sides of the same coin sometimes but always feeling attached by the principals of looking at life as such.

The two friends have been exemplars for the kind of female friendships many of us strive for—and they’ve coined much of the parlance of modern, millennial friendship along the way: “shine theory,” “lady web.”

You might feel like dropping in on a "master-class on long-distance, platonic intimacy", as Vogue once called it.

Now there is also a book coming out mid July.

What feels like the bible of keeping your friendship working, even on long distance, already gains all kinds of praising (Hilary Rodham Clinton among its dedicated fans).

Big Friendship might be an anatomy of the way one particular friendship works, but it is also an argument for taking all amicable relationships more seriously, for understanding them in the terms we usually reserve for romance (the authors share their “meet cute” and discuss the “spark” and “chemistry” between them), and for appreciating the sometimes difficult and time-consuming work it takes to maintain these friendships.

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